Hey good morning all. So, the latest on my prodigal’s situation. I was just settling at work yesterday when he called me. He needed my opinion on something regarding the live-in ex.
He had just come back from dropping off her little son at daycare. That alone, in my humble opinion, shows a great deal of maturity and decency. Anyway, he has gotten to know some of the daycare providers pretty well and one in particular often chats him up regarding the little guy.
My son, (let’s call him “A” moving forward) let the daycare provider know the he and the boy’s mother were parting ways and that at some point he will no longer be picking up/ dropping off the boy.
She told him he has shown so much kindness and seems to genuinely love the boy. She went as far as to say that A has shown more interest and care than his actual mother and father.
The little tyke bounces back and forth to the great-grandmother’s and to the father’s and paternal grandmother’s on a regular basis. He is actually “home” only about three days a week, and is never home on the weekends with his mom. I can’t even imagine….
Anyhoo, daycare lady said that she just doesn’t understand the boy’s mother; she doesn’t seem excited when picking him up after a three or four day absence.
So, the million dollar question A had for me yesterday…He wanted to know if the love of a child was something that could grow on a mother or was it a “it’s either in you or it’s not” scenario.
My answer: See this pic below? Twenty-six years ago, that was pretty much love at first sight for me.
My heart hurts for him right now. I know he is trying to find some type of redeeming hope for the type of mom she could be for any possibility of future children of his, but I think the writing is pretty much on the wall.
Having raised him as a single mom since he was two, trust me when I say I am in no means trying to vilify her. I know how hard it can be and I know of the silent judgments and blanket assumptions some make.
It’s such a shame, this situation. Things were good for the three of them for a while, but friends with bad influences got in the way. That will be for another post though.
I wish I had a magic wand and could wave it over all of them and make this situation better and everyone gets a happy ending. So hard, as a parent, to watch young adults learn some hard life lessons. My prayer life has gotten amped up by quite a few notches of late! lol!
Have a great Friday, all.