01 January 2021

The first day of the new year. It started off kind of odd. First, my bladder decided it was time to make a trip to the loo at 4:30 a.m. Ugh. Then, at about 5:30 a.m., my phone pinged as a new text message came in. I’m from the era when anything after 9 p.m. or before 10 a.m. automatically means someone is either in the emergency room or needs bail money.

I looked at my phone. Wrong and Wrong. It was a happy new year greeting. It was from someone I had briefly chatted with in an online dating site. He asked if we could chat by text and gave me his cell number. I text him the next day. He never answered. Instead, he texts me at 5:30 a.m. four days later. Great first impression. Think I’ll pass.

Then, at 10:20 a.m., I got another text wishing me a happy new year. I didn’t recognize the number. Turns out it was from a guy I had a date with once this Summer and after one too many long drawn out phone calls….I ghosted him. I know, I know. It was a douchebag move on my part. He is super nice and not too bad looking, but just not sure enough of himself and I was afraid he would become clingy. I swear, sometimes I have to check in my drawers to make sure I’m really a woman because at times I act like one of those guys your momma warned you about.

It was nice to hear from him and he suggested meeting for coffee at some point. I said sure why not. He followed up immediately by telling me he is off to Three Rivers and will be back next week and will touch base to set up a day and time to meet.

Woah, slow down. You gotta wonder why a guy would come back for more punishment. Did he forget I ghosted him? Not only that, but when I first chatted with him, I had told him that I had already made a connection with someone else and wanted to see if there was any potential . He wished me well and to not hesitate to get back to him if it didn’t work out. I thought that was an incredibly mature thing to say. Or was it?

You know what’s funny about all of this? I woke up this morning, ready to start the year with new goals and to focus on me and my personal growth. The minute I put that intention out there, these texts come in, left right and center.

The best part of today was when my son came over. I prepared a big new year’s day breakfast of pancakes, bacon, frittata and orange juice. We talked for hours and then I introduced him to a free online learning platform I had mentioned a couple times here and there. We had a look at it together and he was all fired up about it. We created his account and now he has goals over the Winter season he wants to pursue. Makes my heart swell with happiness for him.

Thanks for stopping by. See you tomorrow.

4 thoughts on “01 January 2021

  1. Oh man – I find that when I set intentions for things (like taking a break from dating) poof men will just crawl out of the woodwork that I haven’t heard from in ages. It’s the strangest thing! Happened THREE TIMES last year lol. Insanity!

    But now I really am taking a break from dating haha. I’ve had my ups and downs over 2020, even taking 100 days to not talk to any men romantically. I also might have some personal changes coming up in the new year and dating now would be impractical.

    Glad you got to see your son! Are things going well over where you are amidst Covid? This guy travelling around makes me seem that you have far better numbers that we do lol


    • I remember reading about your 100 days and was very inspired. I am not really dating, just chatting here and there. Montreal dating scene sucks, even in a pandemic free landscape. Our Covid numbers are up, but I’m hopeful that we will see a drop soon enough with the new lockdown. As for me, my bubble is somewhat small-ish and the people I do see are very responsible and careful. Hope your upcoming changes are positive ones!

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      • Oh thats good! I always forget you are in Montreal lol numbers in Toronto SUCK and they keep going up. So even just for personal safety and my health I wouldn’t want to be dating for a little until they start to go back down.

        My bubble is SMALL – just the people I live with cos we are all unmasked in the house.

        If the changes happen, they will be amazing! 😃😃 and of course it will all be in my blog when/if it happens haha

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